Comments on: Bullets: Rainy and gray http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/ A "good enough" mom muses about alpha moms, adoption, computers, the State Of The World, Internet quirkiness, and the Kosmik All Mon, 13 Feb 2012 06:30:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: kris http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-85900 kris Sat, 06 Jun 2009 02:06:05 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-85900 everything ok? been awhile since you wrote... everything ok? been awhile since you wrote…

]]> By: Jozet at Halushki http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-85671 Jozet at Halushki Thu, 04 Jun 2009 04:52:23 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-85671 I agree. Bullying comes in all shapes and sizes, and isn't limited to one area of the country. Kids who say those kinds of things are saying them because 1) they are hearing it from parents or other kids and 2) they feel powerless themselves in their own lives and 3) people fear what they don't understand, whether it's race or religion or sex or size, etc. A great book for dotter - for all girls - is the new American Girl book, Stand Up For Yourself and Your Friends. One the best books on dealing with mean (i.e. fearful, powerless) kids. Also, do a search on American Girl and bullying. They have an entire program they are working on with Ophelia Project. Maybe a little too hard hitting for summer camp, but great info overall. I agree. Bullying comes in all shapes and sizes, and isn’t limited to one area of the country. Kids who say those kinds of things are saying them because 1) they are hearing it from parents or other kids and 2) they feel powerless themselves in their own lives and 3) people fear what they don’t understand, whether it’s race or religion or sex or size, etc.

A great book for dotter - for all girls - is the new American Girl book, Stand Up For Yourself and Your Friends. One the best books on dealing with mean (i.e. fearful, powerless) kids. Also, do a search on American Girl and bullying. They have an entire program they are working on with Ophelia Project. Maybe a little too hard hitting for summer camp, but great info overall.

]]> By: MommyWithAttitude http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-85225 MommyWithAttitude Tue, 02 Jun 2009 04:14:07 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-85225 If I had time to write you a novel here (and if you'd want to read it!) I have a lot to say about this. But short version is that I (and some people I know) feel that it's better to live in a place where people let that horrible stuff out (as opposed to where I live now which is so over-the-top politically correct you can barely acknowledge race/ethnicity exists) -- because having lived in places more like you are now, it really is good in some ways to know where people stand, to have a starting point for conversations with your kids about what's wrong with where those people stand, to learn to get along with the idiots just the same and for them to be learning to get along with you even in their foul-mouthed idiocy. I dunno -- I could be completely off-base but having experienced both sides and trying to raise kids in an environment so different from where I grew up, I just think there's a blessing in there for you somewhere even though as a mother I completely know how it rips your heart out to hear that your daughter had to be on the receving end of something so gross and wrong. If I had time to write you a novel here (and if you’d want to read it!) I have a lot to say about this. But short version is that I (and some people I know) feel that it’s better to live in a place where people let that horrible stuff out (as opposed to where I live now which is so over-the-top politically correct you can barely acknowledge race/ethnicity exists) — because having lived in places more like you are now, it really is good in some ways to know where people stand, to have a starting point for conversations with your kids about what’s wrong with where those people stand, to learn to get along with the idiots just the same and for them to be learning to get along with you even in their foul-mouthed idiocy.

I dunno — I could be completely off-base but having experienced both sides and trying to raise kids in an environment so different from where I grew up, I just think there’s a blessing in there for you somewhere even though as a mother I completely know how it rips your heart out to hear that your daughter had to be on the receving end of something so gross and wrong.

]]> By: Miss Cellania http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84560 Miss Cellania Sat, 30 May 2009 03:43:31 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84560 The hate just sucks. On the bright side, Omegadotter handled it the best way possible for her age. She's a strong kid. The hate just sucks. On the bright side, Omegadotter handled it the best way possible for her age. She’s a strong kid.

]]> By: CuzRache http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84451 CuzRache Fri, 29 May 2009 15:42:38 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84451 I agree with GrannyJ #1. If it's not ethnicity, or intelligence, it's being overweight (me), or having a disability (Son1), or being tall (Son2), or a Yankee (anyone who's "not from around here"). Cutting one down makes another feel superior. I figure we're given our lot, and talk to folks 1 or 2 at a time. And taking on pain or future pain of your child can be health and well-being threatening. I know from direct experience. And also, some people are just Stupidheads. I agree with GrannyJ #1. If it’s not ethnicity, or intelligence, it’s being overweight (me), or having a disability (Son1), or being tall (Son2), or a Yankee (anyone who’s “not from around here”). Cutting one down makes another feel superior. I figure we’re given our lot, and talk to folks 1 or 2 at a time.

And taking on pain or future pain of your child can be health and well-being threatening. I know from direct experience.

And also, some people are just Stupidheads.

]]> By: preTzel http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84305 preTzel Fri, 29 May 2009 01:30:26 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84305 Poor kids. I feel sorry for the kid who said it too because he's young and it is very apparent he is being raised by one, or two, very ignorant and bigoted parents. It is too bad that people who are assholes can be parents. It has rained here so much that both of my maples have fungus. It sucks. Thank you for your support in my gargantuan task that I am hoping to succeed! I really appreciate it. Poor kids. I feel sorry for the kid who said it too because he’s young and it is very apparent he is being raised by one, or two, very ignorant and bigoted parents. It is too bad that people who are assholes can be parents.

It has rained here so much that both of my maples have fungus. It sucks.

Thank you for your support in my gargantuan task that I am hoping to succeed! I really appreciate it.

]]> By: GrannyJ http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84236 GrannyJ Thu, 28 May 2009 19:51:01 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84236 1) I fear that some people will always find a characteristic that they can use to separate themselves from other "them". It may be built into the animal, unfortunately. Do you remember being called a "brain" (and the attitude that went with that call)? I sure do. 2) You can bring some homemade rice crispies goodies with you. DO NOT EAT ON THE AIRPLAIN. I forbid it. 3) We are having a Very Weird May rainy season; it is now well into it's 2nd week, the my house has only had one really good downfall. 1) I fear that some people will always find a characteristic that they can use to separate themselves from other “them”. It may be built into the animal, unfortunately. Do you remember being called a “brain” (and the attitude that went with that call)? I sure do.

2) You can bring some homemade rice crispies goodies with you. DO NOT EAT ON THE AIRPLAIN. I forbid it.

3) We are having a Very Weird May rainy season; it is now well into it’s 2nd week, the my house has only had one really good downfall.

]]> By: VinegarMartini http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84186 VinegarMartini Thu, 28 May 2009 12:45:27 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/05/27/bullets-rainy-and-gray/#comment-84186 WTF is WRONG with people? Those kids aren't coming up with that crap on their own - they're hearing it from adults! I hate it for your Dotter but good for her for recognizing it's coming from pure idiots! Oh - and if you're really jonesing for thunderstorms, I'll shoot you the gazillion that roared through here last night! WTF is WRONG with people? Those kids aren’t coming up with that crap on their own - they’re hearing it from adults!

I hate it for your Dotter but good for her for recognizing it’s coming from pure idiots!

Oh - and if you’re really jonesing for thunderstorms, I’ll shoot you the gazillion that roared through here last night!

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